Caring for Aging Parents — Taking the Car Keys
My sister was following my dad back to his house, when my dad took a left turn on red. Sitting in her own car, she was about to lose her mind. We knew dad was starting to make mistakes driving, but that error was beyond the little things we had noticed. When they got to his house, she tried to talk to him about the turn. He said it was perfectly fine. He sees people do it all the time. Now, in his defense, that could be true. The corner he turned on has a long light on the left turn lane. It is highly possible he had seen people impatiently take a left on red there. But thinking it was legal or safe was out of our sphere of reasoning. We were going to have to step up.
I did some research, and the statistics do not support regulating seniors driving legally. Older drivers tend to avoid conditions, such as night driving or long-distance driving, that cause accidents. Many seniors willingly give up driving when they realize they are impaired, leaving the more qualified seniors on the road. But still, according to a recent study connected by AAA, “seniors are outliving their ability to drive safely by an average of 7 to 10 years.” What age that is, or why one must give up driving, is different for everyone. We were confident that dad was past his time to still be driving. We didn’t want him to get into an accident and wish we had stopped him from driving sooner.
